Priority Shifts, No More Off Seasons, And Working Like The Rock

“When you don’t know what to do, get still. Get very still until you do know what to do.” – Oprah Winfrey

That quote has been the epitome of the past few years for me.

Also, to be noted, this post is more of me writing to flesh out all the ideas I currently have in my head. If you’re going through a career change or another big change this might be helpful. This one is less about fitness and more about life. Continuing on.

Recently, a huge work project wrapped up and I thought about moving on to hunt for a new one. Instead, I stepped back and took a week off from any work at all. At the end of that week, I realized I still didn’t want to get back into hunting mode.

Sometimes, priorities shift internally before your brain catches on. New goals start formulating in your mind, and when you’re working so much it’s hard to step back and realize the priorities you have and the things you want have completely shifted.

That’s why I love Oprah’s quote so much. I’ve stepped back since the start of 2016 from everything to see what I really want to continue with and how many of my goals were me “shoulding” all over myself (<– A highly recommended post to read, BTW.)

My dreams of waking up in the morning, writing all day, and working on copywriting projects was over. I lived it, it was fun for the time being, and now I want something else.

My dreams and goals have shifted, but it took a long time to admit. Sometimes abandoning a dream feels like a break up. You’ve loved something for so long, you worked hard at it, but it just doesn’t want to continue, and that’s tough.

When you know something is over, but you’re not sure of the next steps, it’s important to quiet your mind as much as possible from all the thoughts that don’t help.

Worries about failing, goals you “should” want, superficial things, that writing degree you paid tens of thousands of dollars for…. All those thoughts.

However, do not think about it too much. It’s easy to think too much about life and in turn make yourself stuck with analysis paralysis. As I’ve been trying to figure it out, I’ve been active with ideas and really testing them out to see how they feel.

I want to get back into the health and wellness industry, move out of Denver, get to Europe, work on incredibly creative projects, live well, 5% less body fat, and above all create way more superhero workouts for people to use. (Actually, can I just create superhero workouts all day every day? That is all I want to do at this point.)

The second step for me, in this giant brain-dump of a post, is to dedicate all resources to making these newfound goals come to life.

This is a quick video from Elliott Hulse to watch on the importance of this next step:

 

If you can’t watch videos right now, essentially he says it’s important to mull over a decision, play with ideas, and think about your next steps. However, once you’ve made your decision, THAT’S IT. The decision is made, now you must follow through.

Now that you’ve made your decision, you have to stand in that decision. You have to become the person who deserves to have the results of that decision.

I have only half-assed my own personal commitment to fitness. This really stemmed from a place of not deciding what I wanted, not only in the gym, but in my entire life.

wanted to be lean, but I wasn’t becoming the person who deserved a lean body. The person with a lean body works incredibly hard in the gym, fits in the extra cardio, refuses to be lazy on any day except rest day,

Look at your goal. Who is the person you need to become to achieve those goals?

That’s the question I have overlooked on this new life path. The person I need to become to achieve my new goals is different than the person I was before.

Note: I’m not saying you need to be inauthentic and change your personality, I’m saying the virtues in line with your new goal are different, and you need to develop them.

Only losers complain about the results they have from doing the same thing they’ve always done. I can say that because I’ve been there. I’ve wondered why I wasn’t getting results when I wasn’t making the sacrifices and building the character associated with achieving those goals.

The work needs to be done. The effort needs to be put in. Nothing short of 100% will do.

I already achieved so many of the goals I set for myself at 18, and now at 26 and with a whole new set of goals, I’m realizing I’m back at the bottom and have a long way to go.

That’s why I’m going to set much harder rules on myself for the next few months.

I am eliminating any cheat meals, “off” days, and extra sleep from my habits until my birthday in June. It’s extreme, but I prefer to go all-in instead of half-in.

Not to mention, these new goals are much tougher than any previous goals I’ve set for myself before, so it requires much harder work than ever before.

Lately, I’ve been looking around at people who are living a life I want. Dwayne Johnson, aka The Rock, is one of those people that has the work ethic that I admire.

I’ll write more about this in the future, especially after I try a few things out, but his work ethic in unparalleled.

That’s it for now. This post is not so important to most people, but everything to me and my life moving forward.

The Rock is also worth a follow on Instagram for morning inspiration like:

 

 

Funny how things come back full circle. When I was 14 me and family were evicted from our 1 bedroom efficiency and forced to leave the state of Hawaii. At that time I made a promise to myself to do everything I could to work extremely hard to make sure we never see another eviction notice again. The only action I could take as a 14yr old punk kid was go straight to the YMCA and hit the iron. At that time all my heroes were big strong dudes who were successful – Eastwood, Arnold, NFL players and Pro Wrestling icons. That's why it was so cool for me to go back to the YMCA this past week, train like an animal and remember where it all started for me. Funny thing I realized as I was training that I still wake up every morning at 4am to train with the mindset that "the wolf is always scratchin' at my door" and that f*cker is delivering another eviction notice. One day I'll get the proper psychiatric therapy I need ;), but until then let's always be hungry, humble and always be the hardest workers in the room. #WolfIsAlwaysScratchin #ButNotAt4am

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Why You Should Dominate Fitness First

In the book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, the first chapter discusses at length why it is important to focus on your circle of control.

The circle of control are the few things in life you have complete and full control over: your actions.

You can’t control the weather.
You can’t control the news.
You can’t control other people.
You can’t control your boss.

The only thing you can control is you and your actions.

This is why anyone who wants to change their lives should focus on health first. You have full control over what you eat as well as when you work out.

Exerting yourself each day toward a healthier life gives you back control of your life.

Every day we wake up with new decisions to make. Every day we have the choice to choose better. If you feel crushing doubt or worry, that’s because you feel like life is happening to you instead of you happening to life.

Psychologists agree that the number one contributing factor to happiness is, “The feeling that your life – its activities and habits – are self-chosen and self-endorsed.”

When you have control over your life, you feel happier. Everyone wants to claim that fitness and making healthier choices is hard, but it’s not. What’s hard is worrying about things you can’t control and can’t do a damn thing to change. That will wear your soul in ways that simply working out never will.

While you can’t wake up one day and have control over your entire life, if you start with the easiest areas to control, you might find that every other area of your life falls together as well.

Here are some ideas to start:

  • Remove all soda from your diet
  • Commit to eating another cup of vegetables with dinner
  • Start riding a bike to work instead of driving
  • Eat eggs instead of sugary muffins for breakfast
  • Bring a protein shake to work
  • Start a muscle building program
  • Stretch every evening before you go to bed

Simple, small actions can mean all the difference in your day to day life.

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Staying on Track After Finishing A Fitness Program

Finishing a fitness program is no small feat.

To stay consistent over weeks, when your body is sore and simply over the abuse, builds not only your body, but your character.

Finishing a program is a huge accomplishment, and one that easily weeds out the strong from the weak.

Once the program is over, however, people stumble.

They get to the end of the finish line, look around, and go, “Now what?”

I saw this in my past personal training clients along with my own fitness goals.

So, I thought I’d sit down and address the three biggest reasons people fall back off the fitness routine after finishing a program, and how to fix it:

  1. You’re a goal oriented person.

    There are a lot of people who finally get in shape, look around, and go “now what?” This is easily fixed with setting a new goal: competing in something, trying a new sport, aiming for a new PR.

    Need a new goal? Some ideas:

    Gain muscle.
    Lose weight and get shredded.
    Run a race.
    Find a new workout partner.
    Hire a personal trainer.
    Hit a new PR.
    Climb a mountain.
    Take up a new sport (boxing, baseball, football, swimming).

  2. Accountability.

    A lot of people who get in shape don’t always change their friends. Sometimes just having one or two fitness-oriented friends helps you stay accountable and you two can workout together/share meal ideas/etc.

    It’s easy to slip back into old habits being around the same environment/people/etc. I know, I know, some of your current friends will get upset thinking you’ve become “obsessed” with the gym, but if they are not supportive, are they that good of friends anyway?

    You need someone in your life who cares about your goals and wants you to succeed.

    Start talking to people in your gym, find new friends online, and start reaching out to people you want to be around. Having a group of like-minded friends will do wonders for staying accountable.

  3. On a deeper, more philosophical and woo-woo level: you’re still personally identified with your past self.

    It’s hard for your subconscious to accept you’re a fit person who does fit things. This sets you up for self-sabotage because your outer appearance conflicts with your inner feelings. Super woo-woo, I know, but an incredibly real phenomenon.

    To combat this:
    Meditate.
    Visualize.
    Stop referring to your past self.

Of course, there might be other reasons, but those were the ones I almost always encountered with clients and even myself.

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Why Everyone Needs to Pursue Strength

With 2015 quickly approaching, everyone is talking about new fitness plans, what they want to do, and setting New Year resolutions.

While I love goal setting, the problem with most fitness goals is that they are completely shallow with no real meaning behind them.

Some of the biggest feats accomplished throughout all of history were on the heels of an emotional cause.

I signed up for the Bodybuilding.com 200K Giveaway challenge. It is basically a body transformation challenge where everyone participating tries to change their body in about 12 weeks. (It’s also free to sign up for anyone interested!)

As I was writing out my plans, thinking up fitness routines and diet strategies, I was thinking about why strength in general is so important.

While most of our society talks about bodies in general, from pushing the “perfect” body image or the acceptance of all shapes and sizes, there is rarely a discussion about the internal strength needed to handle life in general.

Life is always there to knock you around, give you new challenges, and generally beat you up. This is what I mean when I talk about the importance of strength.

My definition of strength is entirely different.

We lack strength in America. Our leaders are weak-minded. School only teaches us to shut up and obey. Everyone is scared for their jobs. No one has time for fun. Breaks consist of substances and couch time with hours of endless Netflix.

The smallest stress breaks their spirit.

I can only be so harsh because I’ve been there. My own weaknesses in my life brought about the worst times. I saw myself as the victim instead of understanding I was simply a coward.

I needed internal strength to leave my last long-term relationship a lot sooner.
I needed internal strength to get better grades.
I needed internal strength to stick with a fitness program.

I didn’t learn about the multiple layers of strength until I read Elliott Hulse’s Four Layers of Strength ebook. (for free on his site!)

Strength. Resiliency. Character. Virtues.

Whatever you choose to call it, it’s important to develop them to their fullest.

I needed strength of mind, body, and spirit.

Compassion without strength makes you gullible.
Empathy without strength makes you weak.
It’s a ying and yang type of thing.

Strength comes in many forms. It comes in resiliency. It comes in having the strength to know you deserve better.

The world needs the strongest YOU that you can be.

So, while you go through and set goals for 2015, don’t forget to throw in some goals that make you a stronger person for your goals, your family, your community, and ultimately the world.

Be Honest With Your Goals

Being honest with what you want is one of the best choices you could make.

Everyone talks and talks and talks: “I want a sexy body, I want to be rich, I want to own my own business, I want to see the world…” but their actions fail to back up what they say.

Sometimes it’s a case of no time or overwhelm, but sometimes after digging deeper it’s harder to come to terms with the fact that they actually don’t want those goals.

Be TRUTHFUL WITH YOURSELF about what you want.

I’ve put myself in this position far too many times.  Staying in relationships far past their due date, taking jobs I didn’t care for, putting fitness on the back burner… all in an attempt to convince myself that I wanted things I didn’t.

Your body will tell you when you don’t want something. If a goal doesn’t excite you and you don’t want to do the work, maybe you should examine if you really want it at all.

The real truth is that we have a limited time here. Every new year seems to be going by faster and faster. I already spent most of my 25 years on this earth doing things other people wanted me to do and I want to spend however long I have left doing what I want to do.

Greatness is for anyone who wants it.

You just have to decide what you want.