10 Things You Must Accept on Your Journey of Strength

1. You must dedicate yourself to your own journey.

For many of you, it will only be you on your path. Sure, it’s nice to have a friend along on your journey, but you can’t rely on other people to guarantee your success.

It’s hard to be alone, doing your own things, but understand you are the only one who wants their own dreams to come true. No one else wants it as bad as you do.

2. Consistency is more important than the details. People want to argue with me about protein and cardio but they haven’t even gone to the gym in the past two weeks.

Shut up and hustle. Then focus on the details, but never focus on the details before the hustle.

3. Getting your body in peak condition might make you hungry for other goals in your life.

Starting to change my body has made me aware of the other limitations I have in my head. It has forced me to set my goals even higher and in turn make me hungry for new horizons.

I don’t view it as a bad thing, but just be ready for possibly wanting to change your entire life once you realize what you are truly capable of.

4. You must trust in the process.

You can’t go from out of shape to ripped with abs in a weekend. There is a process that you must follow. Trust in this. Put in the work and show up, even if the results are slow.

You’re still lapping everyone on the couch.

5. Commit to the lifelong process.

This requires finding your deep “why”. What really gets you in the gym? Why do you really want this goal?

When I was going to the gym for aesthetic purposes, it never lasted long. A few weeks at best.

When I found myself at rock bottom, I realized that changing my body had more to do with creating a stronger foundation to rebuild the foundation for my entire life, well, I haven’t missed a gym day yet. Each rep now stood for a better future instead of just doing it because I felt like I “should”.

There will be times when the gym hurts. When you don’t want to be there. There will be times when you’re exhausted. What will keep you going back?

I want to find out what my body is truly capable of. I want to push it as far as it can go.

No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable” – Socrates

6. Setbacks are normal.

You only fail when you quit forever. If you keep starting again, you are never truly a failure. If you get injured, skip a week, cheat on your diet, who cares?

I know, I know, I just said consistency is important and to burn all the bridges on your way to your goal, but we are just humans. We will always have setbacks.

Just a few weeks ago, I was on a diet, but I allowed myself a girls night out and while I was only supposed to have a small meal and two drinks, I instead had all kinds of food and eight drinks.

It wasn’t in the plan, but the next day I just got back right on the horse with my diet and exercise. It was worth the break, and considering I only go big or go home a few times a year with my diet, why not?

I’m committed to the long-term process and know that this is a lifetime journey.

Always just get back on the horse.

7. Take advice from people who walk the walk.

There is a quote I heard a long time ago that I never forgot:

Only take advice from people who have what you want.

There are thousands of people out there who want to tell you what to do when it comes to diet and exercise. Only about 1% of them actually follow their own advice.

I follow programs from Jim Stoppani because he has his PhD in this and is ridiculously fit.
I absorb all the articles from Chad Howse because he’s walking the walk every day not just in fitness but in life. He just went on a spontaneous trip to Italy, a great reminder of how important it is to take action and to not just dream.
I follow Elliott Hulse (and his strengthcamp channel) because not only is he fit, but his blending of the body with psychology is exactly what I want in life.

“An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

If I don’t have what you want, don’t listen to me. Find someone who is living a life you want and has the body you want.

8. Real food matters.

Learn how to cook a good meal. Cook all your meals on the weekend. Be prepared! Stop being weak to your food cravings. Sure, a cheat meal can be great for your mind and for a break, but if you find yourself having a cheat meal three or four times a week, you’re not preparing well.

Learn where your food comes from. Grow a garden if you can. Stop eating so much processed crap.

9. This journey is about who you become.

Fitness will build your character in ways you never expected. The commitment and dedication will pour into all areas of your life.

You are becoming a stronger person internally every time you go to the gym. Keep going.

10. It will hurt.

Sore muscles, exhaustion, that last rep that burns… None of it is easy.

This isn’t a fact that most people want to accept, but life is pain. Life is about being uncomfortable, but everyone is searching for comfort.

A couch is comfortable, but it won’t get you closer to your goals.

It’s uncomfortable to pitch a new client, to ask someone out, to ask for a raise, to get in shape, to try a new diet, to learn a new hobby… The best things in life are surrounded by pain and discomfort. You have to cut through it to get to the good part.

Embrace the pain and discomfort and you will have all those things you always wanted.

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Life IS Resistance

Modern society teaches us to hide away from anything hard.

We order things online to avoid the long line in the store.
We play on our phones to avoid conversation with the people around us.
We drive across town because walking is apparently too difficult.
We use any kind of substance to avoid life and our own thoughts.

Sure, there are benefits to the advancements of technology, but far too many people don’t use it to create a better life, they use it to escape from life.

I don’t know how we have gotten into the mindset that life should be easy. That life is avoidance of pain.

Life is pain.

In the gym, you need resistance to grow your muscles. As you grow your muscles, you can handle more weight. You get stronger. You can’t start out at the heaviest weight think you can start lifting that right away.

Life is the exact same way although we don’t treat it that way.

The harder things are, the stronger you are becoming in life. The more resistance you are adding to your life, the more you can handle. This is how you create the life you have always dreamed of having.

Running from pain doesn’t make you stronger. In fact it creates the opposite. Life will not give you what you want if you can’t handle the simple things in life. If you can’t manage the money you make now, it won’t give you millions. If you can’t lift the light weights, you won’t ever be able to lift the heavy ones. If you can’t keep a relationship to last past a few months, you absolutely won’t last in a marriage.

Life is all about dominating the small things in life. Handling the small pain and building your resistance as you go.

Once you stop running from pain, you never stop running from pain. Then these are the people who 20 years down the line get divorced because they can’t function as an adult and deal with their problems. The kids, mortgage, car payments, work, and repressed dreams all build up until they simply run.

Rarely do we ever praise the people who hold it together, become stronger, and ultimately chase the path of becoming the best versions of themselves.

If you’re going through something hard, just embrace it.

Accept it.

Understand that staying standing on your two feet and meeting this challenge head on will bring a better life. You’ll be able to handle more. You’ll be able to grow.

Run from it and you will always be weak. You’ll be that adult who is still stuck in their teenage years mentally. Life won’t grant those people anything special, and if it does, they will ruin it immediately.

Be stronger than that. Go through life as a warrior. Welcome pain. Embrace it.

Like the quote goes: When life knocks you down, calmly get back up, smile, and politely say, “You hit like a bitch.”

Warrior Wednesday: Make A Decision And Build Your Army

The secret to winning any battle is a well thought-out plan and warriors willing to give battle their all. They must function as a complete unit, and if there is a weak part in the chain, there is a weak part in the whole unit.

Accomplishing a huge goal in your life is no different.

If you have someone in your inner circle who doubts you and your goal, you have a weak link in your whole foundation. The doubts of those around you seep into your subconscious whether you want them to or not.

On your path to any worthwhile goal, your big mission, it is essential that you create a unit around you that is just as committed as you are. You might all have different big goals, but it is essential that the belief is there 100%.

One of the hardest parts of working toward a goal is to let go of your current surroundings and have 100% blind faith that everything will work out through your hard work and consistent efforts.

It is one of the most interesting laws in the universe is when you are working toward a huge goal, and you are putting in all of the effort you can muster, that the world will meet you halfway. Your troops will come to support you on your journey, to help you build your empire.

When I was 17 and decided to move to Denver without ever having been to Colorado or knowing anyone here, I just had to trust it was somehow going to work out. I made the decision and then everything from there on out either supported that goal or detracted from that goal. The world met me halfway, and everything opened up to make this goal happen effortlessly. The right people came at the right time, and no one in my inner circle doubted my goal.

At the time I only had four people in my inner circle, and that was all I needed. We supported each other, we pushed each other toward our goals, and we never planted seeds of doubt.

This was not planned, and these people only came after I made the decision to leave Michigan, not before.

Decide on what you want and the world will bring you what you need.

There was no way I could have planned these people coming into my life before I made this decision. That’s the power of a decision.

When we hesitate, when we doubt, that detracts from the goal. That sets up obstacles. That creates worry and anxiety. The chain is weak.

When I decided to start the path of getting my body into the shape I wanted to, the world conspired to make this happen.

I was in a place of dark depression, but I discovered Elliott Hulse that changed my whole mental outlook on life.

Then, I discovered the writing of Chad Howse, and he has given some of the best advice out there on how to become a true Warrior. He is living it every single day.

Then, just to top it all off, Jim Stoppani gave me a FREE LIFETIME membership to his website, which is pretty much a dream come true.

There is no possible way I could have planned these events. The world brought them to me by me making the decision and putting in the effort. I don’t really understand how this works, and I am not particularly religious by any means, but this is one of those universal laws that is just simply true.

My next big mission is to move to Los Angeles, CA within the next year. I don’t know how this is going to all come together but I do know that the world will bring the situations and the people into my life that I need to put this dream into reality, as long as I hold up my end: Putting forth 100% effort day in and day out.

This is the key part, you must hold up your end of the deal. If you aren’t putting in the energy, the world has no energy to react to.

Too many people want things but aren’t willing to put in the work day in and day out without a single indication that the effort is going to pay off. That’s where most people quit.

Be stronger than that. Put your head down, charge forward, do the work, and become a warrior.

Warrior Wednesday: Mental and Physical Strength

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Isn’t that the best quote? Shout out to Elliott Hulse for the picture.

It fits perfectly for Warrior Wednesday.

Think about our society today: Some of our most brilliant minds are plagued by physical weakness. A warrior is willing to die for their cause. We see this when it comes to the scientists who won’t loudly defend their ideas and instead get bullied by politics or money. Then on the flip side, we see men and women constantly getting into physical fights in bars without much thought to the purpose of their violence. Think: Jersey Shore.

This is the goal of this site: To create a community of people focusing on both physical and mental growth. People who want to become stronger in every aspect. People who want to pursue their full potential. People who want to change the world.


Motivational Mindset Monday: Understanding the Process

No matter what modern-day marketing tries to convince you, fitness is a slow process.

Anyone who promises you a six-pack in like two weeks is out of their mind and should get fired from the internet.

One of the top questions I receive is, “Why am I not seeing results?”

Here’s a rule of thumb to remember for today:

It takes four weeks for you to notice a body change.
It takes eight weeks for those people close to you to notice.
It takes twelve weeks for everyone else to finally notice the work you’ve done.

So, after week one or two of your program, you can just patiently wait and know that the results are coming and to keep going.

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