10 Things You Must Accept on Your Journey of Strength

1. You must dedicate yourself to your own journey.

For many of you, it will only be you on your path. Sure, it’s nice to have a friend along on your journey, but you can’t rely on other people to guarantee your success.

It’s hard to be alone, doing your own things, but understand you are the only one who wants their own dreams to come true. No one else wants it as bad as you do.

2. Consistency is more important than the details. People want to argue with me about protein and cardio but they haven’t even gone to the gym in the past two weeks.

Shut up and hustle. Then focus on the details, but never focus on the details before the hustle.

3. Getting your body in peak condition might make you hungry for other goals in your life.

Starting to change my body has made me aware of the other limitations I have in my head. It has forced me to set my goals even higher and in turn make me hungry for new horizons.

I don’t view it as a bad thing, but just be ready for possibly wanting to change your entire life once you realize what you are truly capable of.

4. You must trust in the process.

You can’t go from out of shape to ripped with abs in a weekend. There is a process that you must follow. Trust in this. Put in the work and show up, even if the results are slow.

You’re still lapping everyone on the couch.

5. Commit to the lifelong process.

This requires finding your deep “why”. What really gets you in the gym? Why do you really want this goal?

When I was going to the gym for aesthetic purposes, it never lasted long. A few weeks at best.

When I found myself at rock bottom, I realized that changing my body had more to do with creating a stronger foundation to rebuild the foundation for my entire life, well, I haven’t missed a gym day yet. Each rep now stood for a better future instead of just doing it because I felt like I “should”.

There will be times when the gym hurts. When you don’t want to be there. There will be times when you’re exhausted. What will keep you going back?

I want to find out what my body is truly capable of. I want to push it as far as it can go.

No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable” – Socrates

6. Setbacks are normal.

You only fail when you quit forever. If you keep starting again, you are never truly a failure. If you get injured, skip a week, cheat on your diet, who cares?

I know, I know, I just said consistency is important and to burn all the bridges on your way to your goal, but we are just humans. We will always have setbacks.

Just a few weeks ago, I was on a diet, but I allowed myself a girls night out and while I was only supposed to have a small meal and two drinks, I instead had all kinds of food and eight drinks.

It wasn’t in the plan, but the next day I just got back right on the horse with my diet and exercise. It was worth the break, and considering I only go big or go home a few times a year with my diet, why not?

I’m committed to the long-term process and know that this is a lifetime journey.

Always just get back on the horse.

7. Take advice from people who walk the walk.

There is a quote I heard a long time ago that I never forgot:

Only take advice from people who have what you want.

There are thousands of people out there who want to tell you what to do when it comes to diet and exercise. Only about 1% of them actually follow their own advice.

I follow programs from Jim Stoppani because he has his PhD in this and is ridiculously fit.
I absorb all the articles from Chad Howse because he’s walking the walk every day not just in fitness but in life. He just went on a spontaneous trip to Italy, a great reminder of how important it is to take action and to not just dream.
I follow Elliott Hulse (and his strengthcamp channel) because not only is he fit, but his blending of the body with psychology is exactly what I want in life.

“An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

If I don’t have what you want, don’t listen to me. Find someone who is living a life you want and has the body you want.

8. Real food matters.

Learn how to cook a good meal. Cook all your meals on the weekend. Be prepared! Stop being weak to your food cravings. Sure, a cheat meal can be great for your mind and for a break, but if you find yourself having a cheat meal three or four times a week, you’re not preparing well.

Learn where your food comes from. Grow a garden if you can. Stop eating so much processed crap.

9. This journey is about who you become.

Fitness will build your character in ways you never expected. The commitment and dedication will pour into all areas of your life.

You are becoming a stronger person internally every time you go to the gym. Keep going.

10. It will hurt.

Sore muscles, exhaustion, that last rep that burns… None of it is easy.

This isn’t a fact that most people want to accept, but life is pain. Life is about being uncomfortable, but everyone is searching for comfort.

A couch is comfortable, but it won’t get you closer to your goals.

It’s uncomfortable to pitch a new client, to ask someone out, to ask for a raise, to get in shape, to try a new diet, to learn a new hobby… The best things in life are surrounded by pain and discomfort. You have to cut through it to get to the good part.

Embrace the pain and discomfort and you will have all those things you always wanted.

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Changing Your Internal Identity

When it comes to getting fit, most people think that the hardest part is sticking to a routine, eating healthy, and lifting heavy weights.

Sure, those are hard.

BUT the hardest thing we encounter when it comes to getting fit is battling our own minds.

When I worked as a personal trainer, 99% of the failures happened because they mentally got in their own way.

Besides all of our own internal issues with self-worth, the most common way we sabotage ourselves is not personally identifying with the new person we are trying to create.

They don’t see themselves as an athlete, a fit person, a warrior.

These barriers are put in place by our own minds and by the people around us.

If you have always been the nerd, everyone around you wants to keep you in that box, including yourself.

If you saw yourself as an athlete/warrior, how would you change your daily routine? If you personally identified with those archetypes, what would you change?

Every time I found myself in a completely new environment surrounded by all new people, I saw the potential to create a new identity. New people have no idea who you are. You could be anyone you want to be.

This is why it is so important to not only find new friends, but to hang around them and see the choices they make. To bring these new characteristics into your own personality.

When I first started lifting heavy, I thought protein shakes were absolutely ridiculous. I thought they were really “bro” and obnoxious. I was an athlete in high school, but I had never gotten fully into weight lifting.

Then when I started to seriously weight train in college, it didn’t go so well. I knew how to be fast, but I didn’t know how to be strong. It wasn’t until I started working at a gym, surrounded by other trainers and weight lifters, that I learned how to bring this new identity into my personality. I saw the choices they made and I understood why they were important.

As I would spend more time with them, they started to see me as a weight lifter. We would lift together, we would eat our chicken and broccoli together, we would all foam roll between work shifts.

Look at your own life.

Are you trying to lose weight? Do you identify as a fit person? What mental barriers do you have about your life?

When you identify with the traits of the life you are trying to build, you will see different choices. Instead of fueling your body with fast food, you will know that your inner athlete needs real foods.

You can create a new life at any given moment.

You do not have to stay in the box you have created.

Warrior Wednesday: Make A Decision And Build Your Army

The secret to winning any battle is a well thought-out plan and warriors willing to give battle their all. They must function as a complete unit, and if there is a weak part in the chain, there is a weak part in the whole unit.

Accomplishing a huge goal in your life is no different.

If you have someone in your inner circle who doubts you and your goal, you have a weak link in your whole foundation. The doubts of those around you seep into your subconscious whether you want them to or not.

On your path to any worthwhile goal, your big mission, it is essential that you create a unit around you that is just as committed as you are. You might all have different big goals, but it is essential that the belief is there 100%.

One of the hardest parts of working toward a goal is to let go of your current surroundings and have 100% blind faith that everything will work out through your hard work and consistent efforts.

It is one of the most interesting laws in the universe is when you are working toward a huge goal, and you are putting in all of the effort you can muster, that the world will meet you halfway. Your troops will come to support you on your journey, to help you build your empire.

When I was 17 and decided to move to Denver without ever having been to Colorado or knowing anyone here, I just had to trust it was somehow going to work out. I made the decision and then everything from there on out either supported that goal or detracted from that goal. The world met me halfway, and everything opened up to make this goal happen effortlessly. The right people came at the right time, and no one in my inner circle doubted my goal.

At the time I only had four people in my inner circle, and that was all I needed. We supported each other, we pushed each other toward our goals, and we never planted seeds of doubt.

This was not planned, and these people only came after I made the decision to leave Michigan, not before.

Decide on what you want and the world will bring you what you need.

There was no way I could have planned these people coming into my life before I made this decision. That’s the power of a decision.

When we hesitate, when we doubt, that detracts from the goal. That sets up obstacles. That creates worry and anxiety. The chain is weak.

When I decided to start the path of getting my body into the shape I wanted to, the world conspired to make this happen.

I was in a place of dark depression, but I discovered Elliott Hulse that changed my whole mental outlook on life.

Then, I discovered the writing of Chad Howse, and he has given some of the best advice out there on how to become a true Warrior. He is living it every single day.

Then, just to top it all off, Jim Stoppani gave me a FREE LIFETIME membership to his website, which is pretty much a dream come true.

There is no possible way I could have planned these events. The world brought them to me by me making the decision and putting in the effort. I don’t really understand how this works, and I am not particularly religious by any means, but this is one of those universal laws that is just simply true.

My next big mission is to move to Los Angeles, CA within the next year. I don’t know how this is going to all come together but I do know that the world will bring the situations and the people into my life that I need to put this dream into reality, as long as I hold up my end: Putting forth 100% effort day in and day out.

This is the key part, you must hold up your end of the deal. If you aren’t putting in the energy, the world has no energy to react to.

Too many people want things but aren’t willing to put in the work day in and day out without a single indication that the effort is going to pay off. That’s where most people quit.

Be stronger than that. Put your head down, charge forward, do the work, and become a warrior.

A Tribute to Elliott Hulse

November 2013 was the lowest of the low.

I had no money, I just went through a ridiculous break up, I was sick, my living situation wasn’t working out, and I was constantly quitting at everything hard.

Essentially, I had pretty much nothing left.
Rock bottom.
Whatever you want to call it.

I stayed in this sad state for a few weeks. Not really feeling anything, and just floating along, sinking deeper into depression with each passing week. It got to the point where I just didn’t even want to get out of bed, then eventually where I just wanted it all to stop.

Desperately looking for some kind of answers, I went to YouTube.

I had been subscribed to this guy, Elliott Hulse, for a while but none of his messages had really sunk in to my head yet.

One of his newly updated videos was in my feed, and I clicked on it. Then I clicked on the next one. Then the next one after that. I didn’t stop until I watched every single last one because something about these ideas resonated in my brain.

All of these new ideas were too much to absorb at once, so I just kept watching them over and over. For Christmas all I ordered were the books he recommended. I couldn’t get enough.

His first recommendation that hit me was to just simply pick one thing and stick with it so you could build the virtue of discipline. He swore that was one of the things that got him on the path to success. This simple idea seemed almost too simple, but I figured it couldn’t hurt.

I decided on finishing my work out program (Shortcut to Size) because after two embarrassing years, I never made it through all twelve weeks of the program. It was one of the biggest things that haunted me and reminded me how much I sucked. I never thought I’d make it past week seven (the point I always failed).

One of his biggest lessons is that it is not WHAT you get by doing things but instead who you become.

That lesson changed everything as I grew to understand it.

Now when I was at the gym every rep no longer stood for a better body, but it stood for building a better life. Changing my character structure. Making myself stronger as a person.

I learned that it mattered far less what it was that I did, and far more that I actually did the thing I said I was going to do.

This gave meaning to my work in the gym every single time I was in there. Even on the days where I accomplished absolutely nothing else, I made sure I went to the gym. Even if it was 11 pm and I was exhausted and craving my bed. Fitness become my lifeline and my hope to a better future because I knew if I could get past this hurdle, I could maybe create a better life.

As the weeks went on, I couldn’t believe how everything started changing so quickly.

The weeks, started piling on and I had no desire to quit. This consistency started drifting to other areas of my life without me trying so hard. I started to believe in myself again. I started slowly introducing some of his other ideas (like The Bow and bioenergetic releases), which you can find on his fitness channel: Strengthcamp.

Now, here I am. The farthest I have ever made it in this program and the end is just around the corner. I have never, ever made it this far. Outside of high school athletics, I never stuck with anything for nine straight weeks.

Through this journey, I can also finally hear my intuition that had been silenced after years of college and years of being told what I SHOULD be doing.

I woke up one day and felt like the negative feelings had finally left and I had once again regained clarity and purpose. That weaker side had been laid to rest and I can finally move on to bigger and better things. Things from my past have been left there and the weight off my shoulders is incredibly freeing.

I hear my inner calling; my Hero’s Journey, and with this realization comes a shift in how I will be living my life. I could not be more excited.

I also know I can finally finish the goals I set for myself. That I can start something and see it through. That I am finally on the path to becoming the strongest version of myself.

I am forever grateful that I discovered Elliott Hulse and his work. It saved my life.

Warrior Wednesday: Mental and Physical Strength

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Isn’t that the best quote? Shout out to Elliott Hulse for the picture.

It fits perfectly for Warrior Wednesday.

Think about our society today: Some of our most brilliant minds are plagued by physical weakness. A warrior is willing to die for their cause. We see this when it comes to the scientists who won’t loudly defend their ideas and instead get bullied by politics or money. Then on the flip side, we see men and women constantly getting into physical fights in bars without much thought to the purpose of their violence. Think: Jersey Shore.

This is the goal of this site: To create a community of people focusing on both physical and mental growth. People who want to become stronger in every aspect. People who want to pursue their full potential. People who want to change the world.